What does rushing past yourself and heading straight into the arms of Google for advice on your life issues tell you?
- That you have many issues, perhaps …
- That Google’s advice (arms) fit you like a glove, unlikely …
- That you readily apply advice, frequently not …
Or is it a quick fix, a fast plaster for the latest disaster. A fix that seems impressive, satisfies immediate need and quickly has you on your way … until the next time … when the pattern repeats …
I get it. For many years I surfed philosophic, artistic, strategic and other online fancy waves. But, annoyingly, I kept arriving back at the beach of What do you want!!!???
I hated that question. It was frustratingly difficult to answer, it stirred my insecurities and at all costs I wanted to avoid … failure. Consequently, I succeeded … only in avoiding the question.
Until that day, when I realised that I had to choose what, in my heart of hearts, I wanted. Only then would I be able to create the life that worked for me.
You see, once you make that choice your mind notices the opportunities, the options, and the necessary actions for moving towards what you want.
Now that might seem unlikely at first. However, the way we perceive and consequently experience the world has been reflected upon in the past and is now verified by extensive research.
The idea that, “We don’t see things as they are; we see them as we are.” is accredited to writer Anais Nil, whilst neuroscientist Anil Seth concludes, “We predict therefore we are.”
Naturally, after having predicted what we want to create, there may be further awareness to develop, skills to build and new relationships to grow.
However, without making a stand for what you want, your mind will not know what to orientate to. And that’ll make you a non-starter.
This came up again last week as I worked with a client who said they didn’t know what they wanted for their next career move.
As we explored the skills she wanted to take forward, and her vision for herself in the future she said some amazing things about what she wanted to create for herself and her life.
And then, suddenly, she rushed past her emerging unfamiliar thoughts. Perhaps this unexplored aspect of herself was scary. And ran straight into the familiar arms of an old idea (well used pattern or strategy) that she knew did not work for her!
What she wanted to know was emerging, she just needed encouragement be with herself, to reflect, a few well-timed questions, time to uncover what is most important for her and importantly, to trust herself to explore what she really wants.
If you’d like some help to get started with knowing what you really want, let’s go.